Some people are young their whole lives. Being mature makes you experienced, and smarter, which also gives you the freedom to trust yourself more and to pay attention only to your and the opinion of the important people in your life. Being advanced in age makes you advanced in wisdom as well. As the autosuggestion mantra of the French psychologist’s Émile Coué says: “Day by day, in every way, I’m getting better and better”.
So, if you’ve found yourself asking “What should I be wearing now that I’m 45, or 50”, or any age for that matter, think about how better you are now at knowing and understanding yourself, even if finding yourself is a lifelong process. And instead of putting yourself down with these limitations, as far as your dressing style goes, ask yourself: how do I want to present myself; which clothes make me feel more like myself; am I a fashionable person; am I a trendy person; am I a rebel.
Finding What’s Right for You
As we grow, taste grows along with us. Dressing like a teenager at 50, though no one can forbid it, doesn’t seem very wise. After all, teenagers can’t dress like babies either. But that’s OK, because in this day and age, some might argue that the best-looking clothing for women out there, is exactly the clothing that, in lack of better words, is appropriate for the mature ones amongst us.
One of the troubles in today’s world of fast-fashion, is that there is such a vast variety of women pants, shirts, blouses, suits, dresses, shoes to choose from, that it may seem impossible to decide.
Feeling Comfortable Inside and Outside
Comfort is a concept sought for in every aspect of our lives. It’s in our nature, and it seems to play a huge part in our advancement as species. In layman’s term, we like to sit and lay comfortable, so we invented sofas, armchairs, mattresses and pillows, we want our eyes to feel comfortable in the sun, so we invented sunglasses, our comfort was threatened by headaches, so we invented painkillers.
This is even more true when it comes to clothing. Most of us might not spend the longest part of the day outside the comfort of our own homes, but when we do, we like to be as comfortable as possible. When it’s cold we want to be warm, and when it’s warm, we want to be dressed as little as we possibly can, without being naked or dressed for a day at the beach.
But comfort has a different side as well. Comfort on the inside means feeling at ease with yourself. Not feeling as if you weren’t you. Liking what you see in the mirror before leaving your house. Not feeling as if everyone was looking at you, except if that’s where you find your comfort, of course.
Fashion is sometimes seen as superficial, but in fact it’s a reflection on who you are. In a way, it’s a form of non-verbal communication. It’s statement, a way of expressing yourself. Like with art. And through the way you dress, you communicate with the world.
There are unconscious choices we make when we choose clothes that are affected by our state of mind and mood. One might choose brighter colours when they are happier, to reflect their emotions, or even the opposite, when they are sad, in order to either change, or hide their emotions. However, though our unconscious seeps into our style, it mainly consists of the choices we make consciously.
If you feel like you don’t really have a style, you are looking for a big change or you just want to mix it up a little, the best place to start are the basics. Treat yourself with some new clothes for the occasions in which you find yourself most frequently. Add a few trendy pieces in your wardrobe, keeping in mind that trendy doesn’t always mean better. As always keep in mind your body shape. And don’t forget about both sides of comfort we mentioned before.
Find a couple of new shirts and blouses. Buy nice women pants with flowery prints or monochrome ones. Baggy pants look great on almost all body types at any age, and will give you a neat trendy and rebellious look. Try jumpsuits. They look great and with just the one piece you have a whole fashionable outfit.
When you are combining pants and tops, follow the simple rule of thumb to have one of them tight and the other one fitted. Combine baggy shirts with tighter pants, and fitted shirts with wide legged pants or a skirt, for a casual and cool look.
Buying Clothes Online Like a Pro
So, now that you are still young but over 40, you may have more important things to do than shopping for clothes. Or you may not have the time or the energy to go on an hours long shopping endeavor. Or you might have just found yourself on lockdown, buying clothes for the many walks you’ll have as soon as you are able to.
Thankfully, there is online shopping. Welcome to the club, it’s not only for the few of us that never really were a shopping lover, anymore. Shopping from the comfort of your home is great for looking through your options, especially if you are trying for something new. It also means that before finding your outfit, you can do a research about the style you are going for. You can look for guides and photos that will further help you decide about extending your wardrobe.
When you find an online store where you are considering to shop, read the comments, find them on their social media accounts, use the live chats and communicate with the staff. Find out as much as you can about the quality, their return policies etc. And, most importantly, always be very careful about sizes. Your clothes should fit well, especially when you are a mature person that wants to look good. Clothes to small or too big don’t leave a good impression and are certainly not comfortable, in any sense of the word.